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Friday, October 7, 2011

Bullying!... it's Journal Entry Friday!

THE GOAL OF A BULLY IS TO BREAK YOU! break your spirit shatter your self-confidence. break the image in your mind of who you are. chip away at the strength you have to one day be the best YOU you can be. overpower you to make themselves feel better. pull you down so low that they will be above you.

But the truth of the matter is - bullies are the lowest on humanity's totem pole
Their bellies touch the ground.
You can't get lower than  that.

No matter what they will say about you after you leave.
You know who you are.
You know you have what is missing from their lives.
You know by walking away you are stronger than they will ever be.

Pray for their pain to cease so they can see the beauty the hate keeps them from finding.

Write a letter to a bully who has targeted you.
He/she will never see this letter.
But your words will bless you and take the edge off the pain they have caused.

Tell them why their hate won't scathe you anymore...
Explain to them what your life has that makes it easy to walk away from them...

Write a letter to yourself and praise the beautiful young woman you are!
Give yourself compliments you may never have heard.
Highlight the things that bring beauty into your life.
Celebrate that beauty!

I know many of you are hurting everyday b/c of the words or actions by another teen. I know it hurts.

But just remember:

"The days will come when you don't have the strength
When all you hear is you're not worth anything
Wondering if you ever could be loved
And if they truly saw your heart they'd see too much
You're beautiful You're beautiful
You are made so much more than all of this..."

Here's your journal page:

Monday, October 3, 2011

I take OFFENSE... and so should YOU

So, I was out with a good friend the other day and she asked me if I had seen a certain movie. I hadn't. I asked her what the language was like b/c I thought I had heard it was chockful of the F-bomb. She said yeah it was but we were grown ups so it was still a funny movie.

As my brain tried to make sense of what she said, I gave her my reason for not having any interest in seeing this movie.

"The people I surround myself with do not use that kind of language so when I hear it, it offends me. It wouldn't be enjoyable for me to sit through a movie like that."

She rolled her eyes.

This made me think.

It made me realize how "normal" our society has made offensive slurs, language and ideals.

And that was an "aha" moment for me as to the downfall of our youth's morals.

I have heard parents justify letting their children see a movie because, "It's not like they don't hear that language at the lunch table." Sure. Maybe that's true. But as a  mom, I am not there to condone that behavior so that justification really does not make much sense.

I know a school guidance counsellor who will not allow students to swear in her office. If they swear, they have to get up, leaver her office, walk back in, apologize and start the conversation over withOUT using that language. Those who complain about this rule often say, "Miss So-and-So doesn't care when we swear in her classroom!" So, if this counsellor cringed through the language b/c other teachers did, she would soon become desensitized and less offended at that language...and the cycle would continue.

So, I want you to think about the friends you are affecting with your offensive language, the hate you spread, the gossip you choose to continue, the rumors you add a little meat to, the dirty jokes you laugh at..... at one point in your life these things made you cringe. You might not remember that. But I promise you, you did.

So, what in your life have you become desensitized to?

Pinpointing these things and using them as a guide to set your boundaries is like dusting and vaccuuming all the grime out of your life.

From time to time we need to do a little Spring Cleaning in our souls...

What will you wash away today?

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