Friendship Pie - it's Journal Entry Friday

Over on "the gathering" we have been talking a lot about what makes a good friend. We have been discussing what qualities and characteristics will create a lasting friendship.

Some of the following were listed as qualities we should be looking for:

• good sense of humor
• kindness
• sincerity
• caring
• trustworthy
• likes you for you

These are really great qualities that our friendships would all benefit from.

Think about your BFF...

• what qualities does she have that makes her your BFF?
• what qualities do you wish she had that would make your relationship even better?

I have to say, much of what we talk about over on "the gathering" is rooted in girl drama...

• girl dates her BFFs ex
• girl tells BFFs secret
• girl talks badly about BFF when she's not around

All of these things are NOT acceptable in a TRUE BFF relationship. BUT.... and this is a big but (LOL)... you are all still learning what INTEGRITY is. Do you know what that word means?

INTEGRITY is a concept of consistency of actions, values, methods, measures, principles, expectations, and outcomes. In ethics, integrity is regarded as the honesty and truthfulness or accuracy of one's actions.

Basically this means you act and react in the same way to the same situations no matter WHO you are with. So, if you have a problem with something someone is doing, you talk about it in the same way whether she is standing right there or NOT. Wouldn't it be nice to have THAT in your relationship? Do you see how trust is built easily with someone who has unfailing integrity?

Alright, today for your journal exercise, you will be splitting the pie chart above into your PERFECT recipe for a best friend. Print it out and then divide it accordingly. If 'being trustworthy' is a BIG part of what you want, then draw that slice bigger than the rest and label it. If 'sense of humor' is important but not as big as 'being trustworthy' then draw that slice accordingly and label it.

Then ~ after you have completed this exercise, AND NOT BEFORE, scroll down to the bottom of this post for PART 2.

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Take a close look at your completed pie...
and then...

BE the FRIEND you want to HAVE!

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Let this RECIPE be your guide to finding the best BFF, but let it ALSO show you the kind of friend to BE!