"What girls do to each other is beyond description. No chinese torture comes close." ~ Tori Amos
You call your best friend to tell her your biggest news and before you have a chance to gush, she blurts out, "Jamie told me that you told her that I wasn't your real BFF!" And the insane drama begins... you end up hanging up in tears and you have no idea if she will even speak to you again... sounds familiar?
We are having a LIVE conversation right now over on "the gathering" and girls are spewing why they think there is so much drama between girls.
Apparently, we are finding through our conversation that it is largely related to JEALOUSY!
Ahhh, the big green monster of JEALOUSY! Could someone please just put that thing out of its misery already?
Girls feel the need to say exactly what is on their mind with NO use of any filter... unfortunately what they are not seeing is how UGLY their words and are. It is sad to me to hear about girls who turn on each other almost overnight and it all ends up being over petty things... friendships are such a gift and some girls treat their friends as if they were disposable.
SOME people allow themselves to process their feelings BEFORE blurting them out! That's a good use of a FILTER... we are all human and we all have thoughts we would rather not admit to - it's what you DO with those thoughts that can make you look bad.
Being a teen girl isn't easy. It is downright painful.
"We can all become obsessed with looking better than the next girl and if things go her way instead of yours (guy you like asks her out instead of you) we become jealous and hurt because we don't feel like we're good enough so we become angry and that makes us pick out all the bad things about that person (even if it's not true) and we end up saying things we regret/don't mean." - Elizabeth, 17
So, what are some things you do to keep from hurting your friends when you are feeling bad about yourself?
JOURNAL!!!!! Write it all down, get it all out, deal with your own issues before you make more for someone else! You don't like the way you are feeling on the inside so why would you do that to someone else?
Be honest - does it REALLY make you feel better when you throw someone under the bus? Because it doesn't make you LOOK better. Those actions are UGLY and if you are striving for BEAUTY you have missed the boat by a long shot.
Project yourself ahead 10 years - what kinds of memories do you want to have of your teens? How do you want to remember yourself? Do you want to remember being the friend everyone could rely on or the friend that treated everyone badly to make herself feel better?
Who do you need to apologize to today?
If someone needs to apologize to YOU... put a link to this post on your facebook and see what happens.
Girl drama is just as Tori Amos says, TORTURE!
Don't do it.
It's quite ugly!